COVID19 & Marriage license update
Governor Sununu – Emergency Order #23 Pursuant to Executive Order 2020-04
The entire update is attached however here is the gist, as noted on item 7. “Marriage licenses that would expire during the state of emergency are hereby extended 60 days from the end of the state of emergency.”
Where to start when planning a wedding
I personally planned two weddings. One was typical church ceremony, wedding reception venue, limo and whole nine yards; the other was an intimate park wedding officiated by a Justice of the Peace and reception was a wonderful luncheon at a local restaurant where we had the second floor to ourselves. You can see both were very different. I am going to share how I started the process and hope that it helps you newly engaged not feel overwhelmed when thinking about all details from smallest like table number to the larges items such as choosing a venue.
I first started by asking these questions: Warning: This is the least fun part of the process but trust me it gets better. Who is footing the bill? Are there multiple sources or single source? What is the figure you have to work with? Keep in mind this can change throughout the planning/booking process. It is simply to get a baseline or starting point.
Next what is the vision for the wedding? Is it castles and glam or rustic chic, backyard with tent and catering, or maybe it’s at a state park and picnic like? Is there a theme in mind? So, before you start booking appointments start with the previous questions and write your answer down. I suggest keeping a file on all wedding related items, maybe even an excel spreadsheet if you’re more Type-A.
Here you are. You have a baseline budget and you have some ideas on what you want your dream day to look like now the real fun begins. You can start booking your appointments. As you meet & contract vendors you can track expenditures and make adjustments along the way as needed. This is where making notes on each vendor, broken down by category, and tracking what is offered verse what services cost extra for each one and having them centrally located will be helpful. Organization & lists are key to keeping your stress level manageable.
I absolutely love todays wedding because ANYTHING goes. So many new options are available such as taco and pizza trucks verses chicken dinner and how about the wooden flowers in place of fresh or silk. Who would have thought? Everything out there has something new to offer if you’re looking for something different how about a small cutting cake alongside a dessert table, candy table or a donut wall oh my! From back yard weddings to castles and BBQ to stuffed sole the creativity is endless. Organization is your friend. Go have some fun! April 1, 2020
To write or not to write your own vows
As a NH Justice of the Peace I love to create ceremonies that are representative of my clients. I like to find creative ways to incorporate the things they love about their lives together from hobbies, to their shared ideals or simply adding parts of their love story, especially the funny ones to the ceremony. I love it when couples choose to write their vows because no one knows your relationship better than they do.
- Have your vows written out to be read during the ceremony. No matter how much you practice, you’ll be a little nervous, having them to read in leu of memorizing will provide you with a sense of security.
- Technology is amazing BUT there is always the possibility of something going wrong having a hardcopy backup is a good idea.
- Use a Thesaurus
- Start and end with your heart
A vow is a promise that each person makes to the other as part of their commitment to one another. Let us think about it for a moment, in sickness and in health, in good times and bad…now let’s be a little more creative. Ask yourself the following questions to help get the creative juices flowing:
- How does your partner make you feel?
- What are some things that are important to you, and to your partner?
- What actions will you take within the partnership to achieve a healthy marriage?
- How do you want to support them?
EX: Maybe you were friends and the relationship blossomed over time and therefore you may want to say something about cherishing your friendship. Maybe you will support them as they complete their degree, achieving their goals. See, now you try with this guide below
- First, start with a few words describing your partner & what they mean to you
- What do you love about them and how do they make you feel?
- Continue with a couple statements or description of your love story, making it personal.
- Finally, what are you promising to your partner?
The final line of the vows is one of the best places to be creative. Here is an example of the final vow statements for a couple who spends a lot of time outdoors and who also grew up in different landscapes.
- I will walk with you among the trees for all of our years to come.
- I will swim with you in the deep blue sea for all of our years to come.
The good news is you don’t have to be an English major, use big words, or even worry too much about grammar; you only have to be able to speak from the heart. So, if you are wondering if you should write your own, I say have fun and go for it. 3/31/2020
MVJPNH – COVID19 Update
We are wandering uncharted waters, trails not yet mapped, mountains not yet climbed. Do you think I can add anymore of these? OH Yes I Can, but I won’t. 🙂
Seriously though, it will take compassion & flexibility to get through the COVID19 environment together.
Currently, our beautiful state of NH is in a Stay Home ban in order to reduce exposure and spreading of COVID19. We will adjust how we move forward this wedding season as things change and information is available to us.
If you are in need of an officiant reach out to me via the Contact Me tab and let’s begin the conversation. I will offer video meet and greets if you so desire otherwise phone calls are good too, whichever works best for you. 3/28/2020